By Alton Buland
Wednesday, December 6, 2006
Grace Lutheran Church
Fort Worth, Texas
First of all, my sister Khim and I
would like to thank everyone for being here. It’s awing how thoughtful and kind
people have been to us this week. People around the world have opened up their
hearts – and their ovens to us. My family is so grateful for your thoughts,
your prayers, and your casseroles. I know Melisse would have loved all the
food.
This world wasn’t large enough to hold
my little sister, so I don’t know how I can say anything meaningful about her in
so few minutes.
The other day, Melisse’s old boss,
really, one of her best friends, Glenn Lawson, who was such an inspiration to
her, called her an “outside girl.” I’d never heard the phrase before, but it
describes her perfectly. She couldn’t be cooped up or kept indoors. She was
too curious about the world, so sharp and adventurous. She had to find out
things for herself and get into trouble doing it.
My mom showed me a photo yesterday of
me reading to Melisse when she was two. Her eyes are wide and brown and have
this spark that never left them. She inherited all of my books when I moved to
Washington, and after she gobbled them up, she founded her own little library.
She would read anything, and thought deeper and more about the world than I ever
did. I am going to miss all the conversations I never had with her, and hold so
dear the ones I was lucky to have.
Melisse would take long drives and
roadtrips, like one adventure to New Mexico with her friend Alex that I know
turned a few of my mom’s hairs gray, to try and clear her head of the confusion
and hurt and fill it with nature’s wonder and peace.
I know Melisse is filled with peace and
wonder now – certainly at all the people who came here today to show their love
for her and for us. She loved you all, too, and she still does.
Oh, Melisse, we just miss you so much. Mom, dad, me, Khim, your family, your friends; everyone. But we know we’ll see you again someday. God take care of her until then.